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THE

NATIONAL CENTER

INFOSHEET

by Dr. Mark Lerner 

Chairman, The National Center for Emotional Wellness

 

 

Although we can't change our circumstance, we can choose how we respond to it. While our physical condition may dictate which strategies we can use, following are twenty-five suggestions from the book crisisnotes, Practical Suggestions for Living Through a Challenging Experience (Lerner)—there are hundreds more. Many people have utilized these suggestions while they are grappling with adversity.

 

1.  Surround yourself with your family and loved ones.

 

2.  Talk about what's happened, tell your story and allow yourself to feel.

 

3.  Try to obtain facts about your condition.

 

4.  Allow trusted family members or friends to help you make important decisions.

 

5.  Spend time with people who listen more than they speak.

 

6.  See your reactions as normal responses to an abnormal event.        

     

7.  Let yourself cry with a friend.

 

8.  Never apologize for showing your feelings.

 

9.  When you're feeling overwhelmed, take a slow deep breath,  inhaling through your nose, hold your            breath for five seconds and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Upon exhalation, think the word        “relax.” Repeat this process several times.

 

10. Tell children the truth, at a developmentally appropriate level.

 

11. If you find it difficult to concentrate when someone is speaking to you, focus on the specific words              being said, and slow down the conversation.

 

12.  Know that it's okay not to be okay, right now.

 

13.  Draw upon past experiences to help you to cope today.

 

14.  When making decisions, try to keep yourself in thinking rather than feeling mode.

 

15.  Know that you are not your body. While your body may be broken, it does not mean that you are.

 

16.  When feeling emotionally overwhelmed, change what you are doing.

 

17.  Recognize that what you think will affect the way you feel.

 

18.  Avoid avoidance.

 

19.  Know that others may say things to try to help you to  feel better quickly. They may need to feel                  better quickly.

 

20.  Remind yourself that you will get through this.

 

21.  Listen to soft music.

 

22. Speak with a counselor or therapist.

 

23. Excuse yourself when people speak of others who have had the same experience.

 

24. Avoid people who have all the answers.

 

25. Realize that you are not your illness or injury.

 

From crisisnotes © 2012 by Mark D. Lerner, Ph.D. 

 

CONTACT:

Dr. Mark Lerner

Chairman & CEO, The National Center for Emotional Wellness

MarkLerner.com

NationalCenterforEmotionalWellness.org

 

HELPING OURSELVES

Through a Challenging Experience

 

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